Halloween and People!

This blog is going to be a two part blog, just because I'm so anxious for Halloween, and because I want to see the before and after thoughts and experiences are like this weekend. I only have one halloween party to go to, and I've only been to one other one in my whole life, so I'm pretty excited. My first one was at Rutgers, which wasn't as crazy as I thought it would be, but my friends house wound up getting a 500$ ticket because of noise...but this year will definitely not be like that haha.

This year I'm going to one at my boyfriends house, with our friends from three different groups. They all semi know eachother, but they're all fun and I know it's going to just be a blast. There will only be a few girls there which I'm happy about, because while Halloween is the one day to dress like a slut, and be accepted, it's still really annoying when the girls act the part, or act like bimboes. The girls there should be good, but I'll come back and make sure I tell you how it goes. I'm going to be a Ninja Turtle so I'm rretty excited. I was getting so bored of the same costumes that you see every year, but I haven't seen this one yet. Hopefully of the 5 or 6 girls going noone else is a ninja turtle. I Love seeing everyones costumes, I'm pretty stoked about them. ?

Overall I think it's just going to be a great time, with drinking games, and games, and just hanging out, which is what our group does best. (minus the drinking, thats more of a special occasion not a weekly occurence haha) Anyway, I'm not expecting drama of any typ, maybe just some observations about Boys vs Girls which I love to do...but I'll let you all know what's up when it's over:) Hope you all have a safe fun halloween weekend!!

Boys...

So last week I wrote about girls, and this week the lucky ones are the boys! I just wanted to mention that again these are things I have noticed in my own circle of males I have known through the years through people or personally, it is not a generalization so don't get offended (for those emotional boys:) ).

I grew up with two older brothers, so I have been around guys all my life. Matter of fact I would say I get along better with guys. They are down to earth, they say what they mean. They don't normally sweat the small stuff, they're funny but of course there are some down falls.

I think the first thing I want to point out(which can go for girls too) but why do some guys feel the need to curse so much!? I'm not offended by cursing, but its just down right so unattractive(and a lot of girls will admit that too). It really doesn't make you cool guys, its just really annoying to be honest. I mean a curse here of there that's fine. but when you 'curse like a sailor/trucker' It's not something that girls would really find attractive.

Next on my list. is hygiene! ughh boys, boys, boys! you cannot wear the same outfit three days in a row! and thats not even a fashion thing! thats just a hygiene thing. you have to change your boxers and your socks and probably your shirt too! jeans could be different because you can re-wear them. But really....shower everyday. BRUSH YOUR TEETH at least twice a day. and just be put together nice. just because you're a boy doesn't mean you HAVE to be gross. (and not all boys are gross, and some girls can be gross..but i mean...people pleaseeeee)


Lastly, you dont have to be a showoff all the time. girls like confident men, but we like it when you make us feel special. don't ignore us, put up with us when we're being crazy and bitchy, because lets be for real we are crazy and bitchy, but its kinda you're job to put up with us:P

It's harder to write things about boys, probably because I can tolerate them more lol and because I know as females we are confusing, but you boys can be JUST as bad, if not more bad sometimes. I think most women would admit the guys in their lives PMS too...

That's it for today, because that is what first came to my mind. I'll make sure I think of some good ones for the next post!

Girls....

           Now this is going to be a very broad non specific generalization about Girls...I've just noticed a few girls lately in and out of school that made me want to write this blog. It's really sad actually, but at the same time it makes you question a lot of things.

           I feel that now as adults, we should all be making better choices then sleeping around with random people, and having no self respect. I wouldn't call myself a huge feminist, because i'm very old fashioned and feel that the man is the head of the household (in a sense, because I still feel like compromising and communication is key) and women should be doing more of the child rearing, cooking, cleaning etc. (NOW before you jump the gun this is what I feel for MYSELF, every situation differs but this is what works for me). Anyways, where I'm getting with this whole feminism thing is, RESPECT yourselves, don't let a guys attention or sexual advances make you just give in to whatever they say or do.  I know as females we need the emotional aspect, and if a guy tells you that you are beautiful over and over again, don't just give in and sleep with the guy. I feel like a lot of girls I know will give it up to any guy who meets their emotional needs. and chances are girls, you'll probably have some sort of attachment to a regular friend with benefits of some sort, its in our being as girls.

           Also, since we're all adults now...guys do not like stupid girls, they don't like needy girls, and they don't like you to whine and be obsessed with them (again, I'm just talking about my observations through relationships around me). Guys like confident women, who can do things on their own, yet still need a guys help. Guys like to be respected and they like helping us out with things that we can't do. But when girls get needy, play dumb, and whine about little habits it just seems like common sense that its a natural turn off. From growing up with guys, and having close guy friends, it seems like everything girls think guys like...they don't...

        I guess what I'm getting at is, just be yourself. One day, when you're not looking (which is key), some guy will sweep you off your feet, and you'll have that fairy tale that you always dreamt of as a little girl. But for the time being work on being independent (yet still allowing for guys to help you and do your job), be as confident as you can be ( i know this is a Very hard task for many people both girls and boys),  and please have more respect for yourselves, guys don't think its attractive when you're "number" is 15+ guys....

and don't worry...I'll have my observations of guys next week.
**just remember, these are my own observations of a few relationships and people around me.**

Awkward.

So once again I had to rack my brain to find something to write about. I went to a wedding last night but there wasn't much to say about that besides it was gorgeous and a perfect night for everyone there and involved. Here I am with not much to say, but I guess I'll ask a question.. What do you do when you're in public and you know someone and they know you, but not enough to have a full on conversation with? or perhaps its your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, or ex-best friend, and its just a really awkward situation...I HATE moments like that!! It happened last night to me at the wedding and this kid was sitting at my table, and clearly kept making eye contact with me and I just had no idea what to say, especially since I don't like him . I said Hi and smiled and was obviously adult like and civil, but it was just reallly awkward. He seemed to want to talk to me but I didn't want to talk with him at all, after all that he did to hurt my best friend. I'm pretty sure he knows I'm not a fan of him too which made it even more awkward. Now if we were to have talked or whatever I would've been pleasant and friendly, but it was kinda on the fence of if you talk I will but you go first (from both of our ends). Now I know I'm saying I would've been civil and acted like an adult, but avoiding him probably wasn't the most adult thing to do to begin with haha. so basically...what do you guys do in awkward situations like that??

no venting here!

My last two posts had a lot of venting, probably because I was just in super grumpy moods. Today is different though. Today I woke up a a decent time and decided to get things done. I cleaned my room, I went through old papers and such, organized things, did three loads of laundry (so much clothes!). I felt really accomplished. What really put me in a good mood was being home with my parents. During the school year I'm always so busy with school, work, homework, and seeing friends and my boyfriend, and today I was just home with them. Its been quiet and lonely since my brothers aren't around much any more, the one is in the Marines so he hasn't lived at home for some time, and the other is  always working or with his gf, so family time is always nice, even when it's just my parents and I. My mom and I spent some time showing each other good songs and videos on youtube to share with each other, and then my Dad and I baked an apple pie together, something we haven't done in a long time. Sometimes I think he forgets how old I am, but part of me just thinks he isn'y quite ready for his baby girl to grow up. I'm positive making that pie together meant as much to him as it did me (even if he put raisins in it!). Anyway this blog today is a different one than my last two, but with the perfect temperature weather, the smell of a baking apple pie and hanging out with my parents, I didn't know what else to blog about.  It makes me really sad and ache for some people who don't have good relationships with their families, and some people's parents are no longer here (by different circumstances) and I really hope I'm not offending anyone or making anyone upset, I'm a big believer in being grateful for what you have no matter how much or little you have. So, today, I'm grateful for my parents, the two people I can always count on and turn to, the two people who taught me right from wrong, the people who taught me that hard work and being truthful and loyal will get me far, the people who taught me and showed me what life is really about.  Today I encourage you to tell someone that you love, how much they mean to you. I'm sure they'd appreciate it:)

"Children will not remember you for the material things you provided,
but for the feeling that you cherished them."